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Friday, 6 March 2020

8 Things my Grandmother taught me that made me #TheWomanThatIAm



After my mother passed away when I was twelve, my maternal grandmother became the mother figure in my life. Despite battling with breast cancer and losing her only daughter, she made a vow to live for me, to raise me as a strong, independent woman and only leave the world when she has done her job successfully. It was because of her tremendous will power that she survived several operations and became a breast cancer survivor.

From a grandmother to a mother to a best friend and guide, she played various roles in my life. I would like to mention 8 things that my grandmother taught me which made me the woman that I am.

1.Never give the driver's seat of your life to anyone.


During my late teens and early twenties, I often relied on others for making important decisions. My grandmother taught me to control the steering and drive my own life. She taught me to make my own decisions and never give that power to anyone else, no matter how close they are to me or how difficult it is for me to make the decision. She taught me to take full ownership of my life and responsibility for my actions so that I never play the blame game or behave like a victim. 



2.Faith will take you anywhere you want to go.

Today, I am a huge believer in the law of attraction. It is from my grandmother that I learned faith can make anything possible whereas doubts can ruin everything.

3.Nothing is stronger than your willpower.

As I already mentioned, it was my grandmother’s willpower that helped her survive many operations.  When I was giving my class 12 board exams, I was suffering from a chronic migraine that hardly allowed me to study. I thought I would fail in my exams. It was during that time she told me that nothing is stronger than willpower. And true to her words, I managed my studies by sheer willpower and passed the exams with flying colors. 




4.If you want to know whether a person or place is good for you, observe how you are feeling within when you meet that person or visit that place. Your intuition will never lie.

During my early twenties, I made too many mistakes in recognizing people. As a result, many people took advantage of my goodness and betrayed my trust. That is when my grandmother gave me this beautiful pearl of advice, which has helped me over the years to understand people better.

5.People who love us unconditionally never leave us. They live within us, providing courage and strength during the hours we need it.

Whenever I missed my mother, my grandmother comforted me with these words until I realized how true it is. 


6. Life is an echo. What we give, return to us manifold. Bless everyone and blessings will return to you manifold. Talking negatively about anyone will make that person talk more negatively about you, thereby making the relationship bitter.

Whenever I felt someone wronged me and talked negatively about them, this is what my grandmother told me. And after many years of ignoring it, today I live by this advice and try not to think/talk negatively about anyone. 


7.Tears are not a sign of weakness. The person who can cry without inhibitions can laugh freely.

After I lost my mother, I used to try to maintain a tough exterior. I used to feel ashamed of crying. When I used to see my grandmother in tears, holding my mother’s photograph, I used to feel uncomfortable. That was when my grandmother taught me to embrace tears with the same ease that I embrace laughter. And that has helped me laugh and live life to the fullest.


8.Honesty is the best prayer.

My grandmother was a very spiritual person. I had never seen her telling a lie. When I asked her how she manages to do it, she told me that the best way to be close to God, is to be honest. Satyam Shivam Sundaram! Truth is God. Over the years, as I became more spiritually inclined, these words of my grandmother got ingrained in my mind and helped me become a better person.

My grandmother left the world in 2017, when I was twenty six, but her life continues to inspire me. Just like Mahatma Gandhi said, “My life is my message”, my grandmother’s life was her message to all her loved ones. She was my grandmother, mother, friend, guide, and soulmate combined into one. She lives within me and her love sheaths me from every danger.

Blankets of snow
Fail to smother the warmth
Of my pashmina shawl
That my grandmother
Weaved for me
A decade back.
How adeptly
Her labor of love
Defeats the frosty thorns
From stinging me today.
Love alone triumphs!





“This post is a part of ‘The Woman That I Am’ Blog Hop #TheWomanThatIAm organized by Rashi Roy and Manas Mukul #RRxMM. The Event is sponsored by Kraffitti.”

108 comments:

  1. These teachings are true Amrit. Your grandmother blessed you and us to. I salute her spirit and will try to imbibe these teachings in my life too. Thanks for sharing.

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  2. These are gem of teachings. Your grandmother was a beautiful person inside and out and has helped you through the most difficult times of your life. Her teachings are priceless and even after she is gone she stays with you in your heart.

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  3. Hi Purba!! I loved your piece, as I felt the same many where. I am also spiritually inclined, and I loved all the life lessons you've shared here. I have saved this post to read them again. Wish you all the very best in life. More power to you.

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    1. That's so sweet of you, Swarnali. It was great to know that you are also spiritually inclined 😊

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  4. Inspiring post. Your Grandmother was really a strong woman and her teachings are truly priceless. Will try to imbibe them. Thanks for sharing.

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  5. Age is never a barrier, this post made my this believe stronger. I often at this age only lose hope and sit at a corner by saying things are not working for me but your grandmother took a driver seat and nurture you as a beautiful soul. Your grandmother's will power, her teachings and her observation are tremendous.

    Deepika Mishra

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  6. There is a say in which I truly believe in “Maa kabhi galat nahi hoti”, so if mothers can never be wrong so here it’s all about grandmother means mother of a mother, level of authenticity automatically touched the peak, every word, every learning she taught you, is so truthful, Only a strong mother can raise a stronger child and your story is a proof of this, I am so touched with your story, your grandmother must be very proud of you from up there, more power to you Purba! Loved it!

    Archana Srivastava

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    1. Thank you for your beautiful words, Archana 😊

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  7. Your grandmother was a real fighter and a strong woman. You must be truly blessed to have her around. Her pearls of wisdom hold true not only for her family members but to all the women out there. You are indeed as strong as she must have wished you to become. Kudos!
    Very emotional and motivational post!

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  8. Your grandmother is a huge inspiration Purba and I'm sure her teachings have made you a much stronger woman. Well penned Post :)
    -- rightpurchasing.com

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  9. A very fitting tribute to a resilient lady. Her advice rings true for everybody. Thanks for sharing her hometruths with all of us. I especially relate to her 4th and 8th advices. They are my motto for a long time now.

    Meena from balconysunrise.wordpress.com

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  10. Beautiful post, great tribute to your Grandmother.
    Thanks a lot for sharing.

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  11. What a beautiful post! Your grandmother is truly a strong woman and the teachings she has shared are priceless and I am sure have made you the commendable woman that you are today! Loved it!

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  12. Hari OM
    This is a superb post, Purba - joyful and meaningful and filled with that captial 'ell' Love!!! Hugs, YAM xx

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    1. Hari Om
      I am so glad to know that you liked the post,Yamini. Thanks a lot 😊

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  13. You Grandma has taught you the best things in life and it's a wealth for a lifetime. Lots of love to you and salute to your brave and living naani.

    Janaki@beyondthefamiliar

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    1. Absolutely. Thank you Janaki.
      Much love! ♥️

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  14. Such a beautiful tribute to your grandmother, Purba. You are indeed lucky to have such an amazing woman as your grandmother. Her life lessons are priceless. She reminded me of my own grandma. God bless her soul.

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    1. That's so sweet. Grandmothers are life's most endearing blessings. Thank you,Ritu 😊

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  15. All that your grandmother taught is true to the core. What a string and wonderful woman she was. The wisdom that she instilled in you lives on and she must be so proud. What a befitting tribute.
    Deepika Sharma

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  16. Beautiful post Beautiful lesson from a beautiful relationship.
    I'm proud of both of you to grow together.
    Thanks for sharing such valuable lessons she taught you with us.
    Was missing poetry from your post which I found as I moved towards the end, as I'm fan of your poems.

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    1. Thank you so much Pragun for your lovely words 😊

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  17. She was such a strong woman and truly these are the pearls of wisdom she ingrained in you. May God bless her soul. Lovely post Purba.

    Ruchi Nasa
    https://thevagabond.me

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  18. How unique and special this bond was is so evident from each word of this post, love to you and her

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    1. Thank you,Pooja.
      Lots of love to you too ♥️

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  19. Love, love the pearls of wisdom she shared with you. She's a wonderful woman. Hugs <3

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    1. Glad to know you loved them, Srivalli.
      Much love and hugs ♥️🤗

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  20. Remembered my grandmother. I too learnt many things from her. Two of which have immensely helped me marathi language and cooking

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  21. What an inspiring grandmother. You have had the best life coach anyone could have. I loved your post and I am sure it will be one of the winners. Everyone should read it and imbibe. The learnings are for the entire humanity. Thanks for a beautiful share. - Yatindra Tawde

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    1. Thank you so much for your wonderful and generous words.
      Yes I truly believe I had the best life coach and feel immensely grateful for it. 😊

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  22. She was really a gem of the person. These lessons are going to be with you always as if she herself is right there next you giving you all the positivity and her wisdom.

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    1. Absolutely,Shipra.
      You have said it so beautifully 😊

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  23. One of the best writings in this blog hop. One of the best tributes in this whole season. Every word that you wrote brought out a plethora of emotions in me. So glad she made you what you are today and you carry the lessons forward and share it with others! God Bless!

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    1. Thank you so much Neeraja for your generosity and wonderful words of appreciation. So glad you liked my tribute.
      Much love ♥️ God bless ✨

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  24. Wow!!Such a wonderful life lessons from your grandmother..Your post was full of love and showed the great bond you share with her..I am going to read this post whenever I need some life lessons. God bless you..

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    1. Thank you so much 😊
      God bless you with abundance ✨

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  25. Novemberschild (Romila)6 March 2020 at 21:02

    I agree - Nothing is stronger than your willpower.
    If I had a chance to choose a superpower, I would pick up willpower.
    Which would help me achieve any goal and that will never fail — an uncompromising mental reservoir of strength.
    Huge respect and strength to your grandmother.

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  26. Such a moving eulogy to a remarkable woman! She must be smiling where she is at the lovely person you have become. I love the way you have made it so easy to read and refer with a kind of question & answer format!!

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    1. So glad you liked it, Brinda 😊
      Thank you so much.

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  27. Your grandmother was an inspiring lady. She taught you all life's lessons. Bless her soul. And you have beautifully penned all her teachings here.

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  28. Wonderful work I am loving for this. Wonderful wonder lesson of you grand gave be happiness when I read. What a wise lady she was 😊🤗🤗🙏🙏🙏👏👏👏👏

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    1. Thank you so much. So glad you loved it 🤗♥️

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  29. The teachings of your grandmother are so much true and I truly believe in these. Just give blessings and you'll be a blessed soul forever!! You are so blessed to have her as your support that made you a strong person !!
    Jyoti Arora

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    1. Yes I feel so blessed.
      Thank you so much Jyoti 😊

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  30. Zenobia Merchant6 March 2020 at 23:25

    Beautiful lessons imparted by such a strong woman. She's been a role model for you and all the lessons definitely apply to all of us. Thanks for sharing

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  31. Such a beautiful post Purba. your grandmother is a remarkable woman and she's wonderful combination of warmth and kindness,laughter and love.Much love and my best wishes for you.

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    1. Thank you for the beautiful words, Surabhi.
      Much love ♥️

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  32. Your Grandmother so beautifully stood by you and nurtured you. I never met my maternal grandmother, she passed away when I was three and had not even seen me as we lived in two different cities...so this post made me think of her...what if I had her in my life. Surely, life doesn't give you everything! On that note, this was an amazing note!

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  33. Love alone triumphs... beautiful tribute to your grand maa...lots of love to her!!

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  34. The first line of your poem depicted the ocean of love between you and your grandma . Awww that shawl must always be reminding you of her and giving warmth as if she's hugging you . Wise lessons she has taught you . Really she finished her responsibility and then only left.

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  35. What a lovely tribute to a lovely and enduringly special relationship! Not only was it a treat to read about your special bond with your grandmother, her 8 pearls of wisdom also resonated deeply with me.
    Noor Anand Chawla

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    1. Thank you so much,Noor 😊
      Glad to know that the post resonated with you 😊

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  36. The warmth of your bond can be felt through your words. She has given you valueable lessons which will last for a lifetime.

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  37. Such beautiful priceless lessons in life. So rightly said, never give the steering wheel of your life in other's hands or they can just ruin it totally.

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  38. I cherished my memories and time soent with my Dadk while reading this. Indeef they are 1 of the inspiring women in the families. Thank you for bringing out this as well Purba 🙂

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  39. Your grandmother shared some wise and beautiful lessons with you. Thank you for sharing them with us.
    Mayuri/Sirimiri

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  40. your grandmother is indeed an idol, ahead of her times. She has given u the right values which most of us just talk about and never follow. Following ur instinct is one thing girls are never taught. So glad to know the real life example of someone following this. :)

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    1. I always believe that she was ahead of her times.Thanks for your wonderful words,Supriti 😊

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  41. One of the best life lessons one can get from our elders. We usually neglect and mock teachings of our parents so it is touching to see you giving full honour and using these teachings in life. You are one of the luckiest for sure to have such a strong woman in your life. #damurureads Urvashi

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  42. Your grandmother is beautiful soul and she taught you lessons that never let you fail. god bless you dear.

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  43. I just loved your post Purba. Such a beautiful tribute to your lovely grandmother. Also an inspiring post.

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  44. Grandmothers and their tales are often fondly remembered by most of us for their wisdom. How lucky that you lived with her and got it all from her in person. She taught you all the things that matter in life, from being independent to accepting vulnerability too. Beautiful post, Purba. I'm sure she and your Mom are looking down at your fondly.

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    1. Thank you so much Varsha for your lovely words 😊

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  45. Firstly, a great tribute to a great lady..secondly, you won't believe but I actually talk about points 1, 2, 4, 6 and 7 in my book From Stressed to Sorted' - needless to say, your post really resonated with me!

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  46. Beautiful write up.Your grandmother's teachings are priceless.An inspiring post.
    Sangya Nagpal

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  47. Your grandmother was a warrior I would say, she not only defeated death but had the will power to raise a girl child. Life lessons that she imparted are pearls of wisdom for all of us. Salute to this Woman of substance and thanks for sharing such an inspiring story of a great lady.

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    1. Thank you so much Debidutta for the lovely words 😊

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  48. This is very close to my heart.
    Thanks for sharing the same. My namaste to your granny.
    Such a hard hitting truth, never give that driver's seat to others and touching on the the innermost traesure to identify and relaise about the discomfort if people and place...

    To me several answers opened in one read.
    Thanks dear and it's an eye opener

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    1. So good to know that,Meera. Thank you so much 😊

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  49. What a lovely post. This is a great tribute to a wonderful lady. She has taught you some amazing life lessons and these are a teaching for all. Loved the tribute

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  50. These are some great advice from your grandma's treasure. I am sure all these learnings have made you the woman you are today and the ones reading this post would surely draw some valuable learnings out of it.

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  51. you share an amazing bond with your grandmother, her teachings are pure gem and stand tall through times. plus she is very cute. gob bless you both.
    -ujjwal mishra http://mywordsmywisdom.com

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    1. Thank you so much,Ujjwal 😊
      God bless you with abundance ✨

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  52. You are lucky and blessed. Your grandmother is an inspiration to all of us. I believe now that this bloghop has succeeded in its mission. Age is just a number, amazing hat and the table pose by her is absloutely adorable! Not forgetting the tips that will remain with me throughout my life.

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    1. Thank you so much for your wonderful words, Srishti 😊

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  53. Such a sweet and inspiring post. The teachings are worth sharing. I must say you are blessed to have learnt them from the queen herself. Very well written and am glad you shared this beautiful piece with us as a part of this blog hop :)

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    1. Thank you so much Rashi 😊 I feel so grateful to be a part of this amazing bloghop.

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  54. A perfect tribute. Your grandmother was a true super woman. She faced everything with a smile and gave you lesson and learning for the lifetime. The best part is that you are still living by them and cherishing them each day. I am sure wherever she will be, she will be the happiest. Wonderful write up Purba. Really glad that you gave us a chance.
    #RRxMM #TheWomanThatIAm

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    1. Thank you so much Manas for your beautiful words. I feel so blessed to be a part of this bloghop 😊

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